Healers, coaches, and anyone drawn to the helping professions are all works in progress. And yet, people entrust us with their deepest pain, their stories, and their hopes. That’s a responsibility that demands more than just good intentions and impressive modalities.

When I first discovered my psychic abilities, I felt so much power by being a messenger between worlds. Later, in my 30s, coaching and family constellation work gave me that buzz again: “Wow, I can really help people.” But beneath that feeling was something bigger—an eagerness to help that I now recognize as the saviour complex.

This isn’t just my story. This is a pattern. And I am sure you played some parts in this story as well. 

The Saviour Complex: Good Intentions, Twisted Roots

It often starts in childhood. You were the one who held it all together, made sure the adults were okay, ensured peace by keeping your needs under the carpet